Most families care about each other and do their best to protect one another.  One way to do this is to talk about important issues before they become problems.  As a family, take the time to talk about how alcohol and drug use fits with your family values. Have rules about what is okay and what's not okay and what will happen if these rules are not followed. 

One tool your family can use to start the conversation about alcohol, other drugs and tobacco is a template to fill out together: Family's Rules about Alcohol, Other Drugs and Tobacco. Other resources such as a Parent Action Pack (available at the Peterborough County-City Health Unit) or www.talkingwithyourkids.ca can also help you get the conversation started. 

Tips to Remember
There are no right or wrong rules.  The rules and related consequences you choose must be right for your family.  It may not be what other families would choose but it's what your family thinks is best.
The best rules for any family are ones that are fair and followed all the time.  Both the rules and the consequences must be respected by all members of the family, no matter what your age is or your position.  The rules and consequences are the same for everyone which means no special treatment for one person.
Every member, including young children, should be allowed to help put the rules together.  By being involved, everyone is more likely to follow them.
As the family grows and changes, the rules will need to be looked over and maybe changed.  Each rule is a work in progress designed to keep your family safe.
Parents, you are role models for your children.  Set a good example.  Follow the terms, conditions and spirit of your family's rules.  Kids, show your parents that you can and will live by the rules.
 

Adapted with permission from Renfrew County and District Health Unit, October 2005.